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Imposter Syndrome…and How to beat it!
Imposter syndrome is real
Feeling like you don’t belong
This isn’t how you should feel
like you almost don’t deserve to feel good and if you do you self-sabotage
(how craazy does that sound? ^)
I feel it daily so first things first
IF you do feel that way sometimes
Know that most people will encounter it
Then you have a choice
back off and revert back to safety which ultimately you know deep down
won’t make you as happy as you would feel going after what you want
…or just test yourself and always aim to get 1% better
I’ve had loads of moments really when I have questioned myself
On the book
How the gym is going
My new online mindset program
the speaking stuff I have done recently
And I feel like a bit of an imposter most days if I’m being honest
But I would rather that than staying still and expecting change to happen with zero action or thought behind it
The key is knowing how to work around it and this is the sort of stuff I coach on Improve90
#1
Realise that a lot of people feel the same way so talk about it.
Knowing other people are and have gone through imposter syndrome makes you feel better
& know that people who are or appear to be confident will have gone through this also.
Confidence is earned.
#2
Track wins
We have people logging 3 wins a day and 5 big wins for the week.
3 wins a day for a year
…yep that’s a lot of wins.
Imagine you were in the habit of doing that ^ over watching the news and feeling like you are going in circles and not getting anywhere
Most people crush their own self esteem and confidence because they do not have a system to ‘win’
the system is set up to be busy and go round in circles
They ‘hope’ things turn out good and if they don’t
ah well…so be it
no
Track wins
Wins build confidence.
Confidence builds courage.
#3
Lean into it
Every time you feel resistence
Lean in a little more
It’s just a test
The more you lean in rather than back off
The more you learn about yourself and come out of each obstacle/negative self talk episode way stronger for it
Same goes for stress
see ‘good stress’ as a positive
Both are pre requisites for growth across any area – personal development, career, health, relationships…
#4
Courage
Like I said above
Competence + Courage = confidence
You could probably add Clarity, Capability to the ‘C’ bandwagon there but anyhoo
Do things that are hard(er) every day – workout, make that call, strike up that conversation, cook food, put yourself out there
Get uncomfortable now to realise a new level of comfort in the future
Stay comfortable now and always look for easy, short term decisions
= you pay for it longer term
Again like #3 you could use this principle across all areas of life
Sure
I don’t want to exercise most days (like most people)
But I simply have to
Embrace friction, the uncomfortable and hard stuff at least once per day and see where it takes you 🙂
Dan